Sunday, July 17, 2022

Protect your research time by drafting off other parents who already forged a path

I first came across the concept of drafting as high school track runner.  It is a tactic where a runner conserves energy by running in the ‘wake’ of a runner slightly ahead of them.  This process reduces the total energy expended to fight air resistance.  [Clarification:  I am pretty sure that at in my waddle regimes, drafting did not influence my PRs.].

Drafting as a parent, is anyway that you can reduce your energy input by just replicating the steps of another parent instead of ‘reinventing the wheel’ through your own research.  I would strongly suggest drafting after my experience as an academic parent to guard my time being present with my family and research colleagues.  Here are some examples of when and how I drafted as a parent. 

Identifying how to navigate the institutional paperwork: 

I come from a small department where none of the other female faculty had gone through pregnancy during my tenure.  Just at the time when my spouse and I got pregnant, my department got a new chair who was new to the institutional policies.  I felt time limited (lots of pregnancy comorbidities (read high number of doctor appointments each week), teaching research, service, etc.), but knew that a large institution like ours probably had a high number of programs dedicated to helping women through pregnancy, birthing, and bonding.  I just did not know where to look. 

So, I asked for help.  I emailed female faculty who had kids and asked for 30-minute phone call.  While I needed to put in some prework (make a list of questions to get started), I eliminated a much longer research project.  They quickly helped me identify the right HR rep, the resources that I could utilize, and examples of different methods chairs had helped faculty in the past.  They also helped me identify the meetings I might want to still participate in while on leave and those that could probably wait. 

Picking a daycare: 

In March of 2019, the daycare for our 1 yr. old closed due to the COVI-19 pandemic.  We (my partner, myself, and our toddler) were living in a two-bedroom condo in our small ‘city’ (if you are living in Chicago, please read that as ‘town’).  We loved being with our daughter and seeing her first steps.  However, about a month of coworking, all three of us (daughter included) were yearning for a daycare setting.  Our daughter needed people who understood child development and we needed those same people to guide us. 

We had moved to our area for my academic position and were far from family support.   We were tired from parenting/working around the clock and taking of the task of identifying and checking the daycares in our area was daunting (added commitment).  However, we knew the choice was going to be important.  So, we made the decision to draft. 

We identify three parents who also worked at the same institution.  I knew them from work (great reputations as quality researchers) and felt comfortable with their dedication to making informed decisions.  I called to find out where their kids went to daycare and filled out that application that evening.  Luckily for us, enough parents had pulled their kids out due to COVID-19 concerns, where was a spot open.  The teachers and administrators have been great- we could not have made a better choice. 

Planning our daughter’s first real birthday party this year

I got off most social media platforms this year to help me redirect time to what I considered important.  While it helps me be more present at work and during dinner time, I don’t always know what ‘cool’ or ‘fun’ is for my kids.  As my daughter’s birthday approaches, its become more apparent that I needed help.  My daughter really enjoyed birthday party she attended at the park this summer (hosted by her friend A). So, I just made a list of all the highlights that I remembered such as A’s mom bringing a cooler of ice pops, a bag of plastic toys, scheduling an early morning meeting, etc. 

Acknowledgements:  A and G are faculty who have been part of my academic family and village raising my kids.  They graciously read this post and provided comments that were incorporated. 

Sunday, July 10, 2022

Choosing a paper planner that matched my needs as a researcher/spouse/mom

In 2017, I was using a digital calendar and a notepad for lists.  While I was hitting some work goals, I felt like I was always completing things at the last minute and not turning out things at the quality I wanted.  That meant more required revisions on my manuscripts that needed to be responded to prior to acceptance from journals, my proposals were close to getting funded (scored just below the ones that were funded) and I unintentionally was short with graduate students in my group.   I was frustrated and knew something had to change.  So, I applied for a sabbatical in hopes that realigning my research priorities and purging some service activities would help me juggle the tasks associated with my job a little better.  I took the first few months of sabbatical completing papers, closing out projects on the periphery of my research focus and writing a new proposal.   During the third month of sabbatical, my parents called to let me know that my mom had cancer.  It had been a while since I heard from them and so I knew that diagnosis was serious.  A few weeks later she passed, and I was left trying to help my dad with the after math of my mom’s passing (plan a funeral, settle affairs, etc.) while also continuing my own life (finishing out my sabbatical).  My management system (paper lists and digital calendar) stopped working well.  It was hard to keep track of which to-do items needed to get done on which day.  I realized I needed a paper planner with space to identify both my scheduled appointments and the activities that needed to get done each day.  I could easily see my schedule in black and white, allowing me to quickly commit to a meeting time or write down anything I was committing to.  At first the Mole Moleskine Weekly Diary seemed like it would be enough. Using it, I could see that I was keeping track of appointments better, but there was not enough space for the to-do items I had related to my family, my work and my own selfcare.  I kept supplementing the Moleskin with Expedition Waterproof Notebooks, small field notebooks that I could write my to-do lists.  I got them because the ‘Expedition’ name and feel would make me tough like geologists on a field study.  And, I loved the yellow color that made me smile each time I pulled it from my bag.   This worked for about four months before I started googling planners trying to find the right one.   I landed on daily planners and here are my review of three that worked for me at different times (DapperDesk from Simplified, Daily Duo from Emily Condren and most recently, the Simplified Planner).  

DapperDesk:  When I first transitioned from the Moleskin, I wanted a planner that looked professional to me (think neutral color and no pattern) and had a full page for each day. DapperDesk met both of these requirements. Each day had a full pace with an hourly agenda on the left and a blank to-do list on the right. At the bottom of each page was an area for notes too. I liked the paper quality with the DapperDesk, that the design was minimal (no colors or designs on pages) and the layout worked well. However, the binding started to wear out soon, and the cover started to separate from the bound pages. Since the DapperDesk was a bound book, it would lie flat on the table. However, I always saw two days. This turned out to be bothersome if I wanted to begin on a clean slate and was stuck looking at the note from a contentious meeting or missed deadline etch. Nonetheless I used DapperDesk for two years because it was comfortable. I finally moved to another planner when the DapperDesk cover colors for the third year were only offered in white and mauve. Neither color seemed practical for my life (being thrown in a bag for my commutes) or matched my personal aesthetic. Why carry a planner that you don’t like the look of? (Note: They are selling a Conac colored cover for the 2022-2023 Dapper Desk.)  

Daily Duo: This planner is sold by Erin Condren can comes as two six-month books that span an entire year. Each day has its own page, and because each book covers only six months, books are relatively lightweight. The downside was that I could not see an entire year with each book, and I could never figure out whether to store the second book with the following 6 months in my office or home for reference. It seemed like it was always in the wrong place. I did like having a coil binder opposed to the binding in the Dapper Desk. The coil lets you bend the cover back fully so that just the current page (day) is visible. This also mean that the footprint of the planner on my desk was smaller than the DapperDesk. These books held up well, including being transferred to the diaper bag on weekends and commuting in my work bag. One thing that I did not anticipate loving, was the ability to change the covers. I was able to get covers that reflect things I loved (I got covers for RGB and to celebrate the release of the Mandalorian).    

Simplified Daily Planner: I eventually got tired of keeping track of two books for each calendar year and so I ordered a Simplified Daily Planner. It has the coil and a page a day for Monday-Friday, but a combined page for Saturday/Sunday. While I initially thought I would hate the combined weekend page, it did not actually impact my scheduling since my weekend activities are really set around the needs of our two toddlers. With them, I can have at one anchor activity in the morning, such as trip to the zoo, and one afternoon activity, such as a playdate with a friend, each day. 
Currently, I am using out my Simplified Daily planner combined with a digital calendar. I use the digital planner to send events to my spouse (daycare holidays, babysitter schedule, etc.), colleagues (research meetings) and students (advising meetings). I am pretty happy with this combination currently, however, can’t recommend this planner for all my friends. My job it fairly unusual in that work is confined between Monday to Friday, which is not a luxury everyone has. For example, my friend H, is required to work some weekend shifts at a manufacturing plant and the shared page layout for Saturday/Sunday page does not allow her to outline those work days well. It would be great if this company would provide a daily planner option for people who do not have the luxury of working only M-F.  

 If you are trying to find a paper planner, I would strongly suggest utilizing Amanda’s Favorites (YouTube channel).  Amanda does detailed reviews so that you can see the components of planners and comments on things like the weight of the paper and the layouts.  I particularly like her Top 5 videos, which list out her 10 (there are five runner ups) favorite planners.  The podcast ‘Best Laid Plans’ with Sarah Hart-Unger is also a helpful resource. Sarah is a physician who uses planners to manage her household.  This podcast gives thoughtful commentary on planning, planners, etc.   Having a planner that matched my needs really did improve the flow of my days and using these resources might help you have the same luck. 

Acknowledgements:  This blog post was edited by Kate Epstein of EpsteinWords.  She specializes in editing and coaching for academics, and she can be reached at epsteinwords at gmail.com.

In 2017, I was using a digital calendar and a notepad for lists.  While I was hitting some work goals, I felt like I was always completing things at the last minute and not turning out things at the quality I wanted.  That meant more required revisions on my manuscripts that needed to be responded to prior to acceptance from journals, my proposals were close to getting funded (scored just below the ones that were funded) and I unintentionally was short with graduate students in my group.   I was frustrated and knew something had to change.  So, I applied for a sabbatical in hopes that realigning my research priorities and purging some service activities would help me juggle the tasks associated with my job a little better.  I took the first few months of sabbatical completing papers, closing out projects on the periphery of my research focus and writing a new proposal.   During the third month of sabbatical, my parents called to let me know that my mom had cancer.  It had been a while since I heard from them and so I knew that diagnosis was serious.  A few weeks later she passed, and I was left trying to help my dad with the after math of my mom’s passing (plan a funeral, settle affairs, etc.) while also continuing my own life (finishing out my sabbatical).  My management system (paper lists and digital calendar) stopped working well.  It was hard to keep track of which to-do items needed to get done on which day.  I realized I needed a paper planner with space to identify both my scheduled appointments and the activities that needed to get done each day.  I could easily see my schedule in black and white, allowing me to quickly commit to a meeting time or write down anything I was committing to.  At first the Mole Moleskine Weekly Diary seemed like it would be enough. Using it, I could see that I was keeping track of appointments better, but there was not enough space for the to-do items I had related to my family, my work and my own selfcare.  I kept supplementing the Moleskin with Expedition Waterproof Notebooks, small field notebooks that I could write my to-do lists.  I got them because the ‘Expedition’ name and feel would make me tough like geologists on a field study.  And, I loved the yellow color that made me smile each time I pulled it from my bag.   This worked for about four months before I started googling planners trying to find the right one.   I landed on daily planners and here are my review of three that worked for me at different times (DapperDesk from Simplified, Daily Duo from Emily Condren and most recently, the Simplified Planner).  ·       DapperDesk:  When I first transitioned from the Moleskin, I wanted a planner that looked professional to me (think neutral color and no pattern) and had a full page for each day. DapperDesk met both of these requirements. Each day had a full pace with an hourly agenda on the left and a blank to-do list on the right. At the bottom of each page was an area for notes too. I liked the paper quality with the DapperDesk, that the design was minimal (no colors or designs on pages) and the layout worked well. However, the binding started to wear out soon, and the cover started to separate from the bound pages. Since the DapperDesk was a bound book, it would lie flat on the table. However, I always saw two days. This turned out to be bothersome if I wanted to begin on a clean slate and was stuck looking at the note from a contentious meeting or missed deadline etch. Nonetheless I used DapperDesk for two years because it was comfortable. I finally moved to another planner when the DapperDesk cover colors for the third year were only offered in white and mauve. Neither color seemed practical for my life (being thrown in a bag for my commutes) or matched my personal aesthetic. Why carry a planner that you don’t like the look of? (Note: They are selling a Conac colored cover for the 2022-2023 Dapper Desk.)  

·       Daily Duo: This planner is sold by Erin Condren can comes as two six-month books that span an entire year. Each day has its own page, and because each book covers only six months, books are relatively lightweight. The downside was that I could not see an entire year with each book, and I could never figure out whether to store the second book with the following 6 months in my office or home for reference. It seemed like it was always in the wrong place. I did like having a coil binder opposed to the binding in the Dapper Desk. The coil lets you bend the cover back fully so that just the current page (day) is visible. This also mean that the footprint of the planner on my desk was smaller than the DapperDesk. These books held up well, including being transferred to the diaper bag on weekends and commuting in my work bag. One thing that I did not anticipate loving, was the ability to change the covers. I was able to get covers that reflect things I loved (I got covers for RGB and to celebrate the release of the Mandalorian).    ·       Simplified Daily Planner:I eventually got tired of keeping track of two books for each calendar year and so I ordered a Simplified Daily Planner. It has the coil and a page a day for Monday-Friday, but a combined page for Saturday/Sunday. While I initially thought I would hate the combined weekend page, it did not actually impact my scheduling since my weekend activities are really set around the needs of our two toddlers. With them, I can have at one anchor activity in the morning, such as trip to the zoo, and one afternoon activity, such as a playdate with a friend, each day. 
Currently, I am using out my Simplified Daily planner combined with a digital calendar. I use the digital planner to send events to my spouse (daycare holidays, babysitter schedule, etc.), colleagues (research meetings) and students (advising meetings). I am pretty happy with this combination currently, however, can’t recommend this planner for all my friends. My job it fairly unusual in that work is confined between Monday to Friday, which is not a luxury everyone has. For example, my friend H, is required to work some weekend shifts at a manufacturing plant and the shared page layout for Saturday/Sunday page does not allow her to outline those work days well. It would be great if this company would provide a daily planner option for people who do not have the luxury of working only M-F.  

 If you are trying to find a paper planner, I would strongly suggest utilizing Amanda’s Favorites (YouTube channel).  Amanda does detailed reviews so that you can see the components of planners and comments on things like the weight of the paper and the layouts.  I particularly like her Top 5 videos, which list out her 10 (there are five runner ups) favorite planners.  The podcast ‘Best Laid Plans’ with Sarah Hart-Unger is also a helpful resource. Sarah is a physician who uses planners to manage her household.  This podcast gives thoughtful commentary on planning, planners, etc.   Having a planner that matched my needs really did improve the flow of my days and using these resources might help you have the same luck. 

Acknowledgements:  This blog post was edited by Kate Epstein of EpsteinWords.  She specializes in editing and coaching for academics, and she can be reached at epsteinwords at gmail.com.

 

Sunday, July 3, 2022

The principle of childcare redundancy

Since my youngest child turned one in February this year (2022), I felt more ready to leave the house on a work trip and committed to attending my first in-person conference since 2019.  I decided to submit a few a conference papers for the American Association of Engineering Education annual conference based on our work related to undergraduate research programming and a scholarship program for transfer students.

To prepare for the trip, I tried to find resources about conference travel for academic parents.  This article from 2018 focused on how conference organizers could and should make conferences more accessible to scholars with children.  None of the author’s practical tips  have become commonplace, so I opted to leave my children at home with my spouse.  I was able to schedule my travel for days when the kids would be in daycare (not Saturday or Sunday) and initially had a babysitter scheduled to come each night to help manage the nighttime routine since the we have a one- and two-year-old.  Two adults makes the bedtime much more manageable as both kids are full of energy at that time.

However, after listening to the advice of Laura Vanderkam and Sarah Hart-Unger on their invaluable podcast “Best of Both Worlds”, I changed that plan.  We knew that after school through their bedtime is a demanding sequence of play time, dinner, baths, reading, play time, and a negotiation process that finally results in them begrudgingly going to sleep.  Sarah and Laura suggest that when both spouses are working there should be childcare redundancy.  That is to include a backup if the primary childcare option is canceled.  Since my spouse had some important work meetings that could not be missed, we needed someone to be on call incase daycare was canceled while I was on travel.    So, we decided to fly in my mother-in-law so that if daycare had an unforeseen cancelation, she’d be there to take care of them and my spouse could still make it to the office. Selfishly, I also scheduled her flights so that I could visit with her when I returned from the conference too.  I did not want to miss out of all the fun a home.  

I’m of course enormously fortunate to have a mother-in-law who has the time and energy to provide childcare redundancy, whose company I enjoy so much and to have the money to fly her in to visit us. I also know I was a better scholar at the conference because I knew my spouse had that support and that my children were well-cared for.

Acknowledgements:  This blog post was edited by Kate Epstein of EpsteinWords.  She specializes in editing and coaching for academics, and she can be reached at epsteinwords at gmail.com.